Breastfeeding dilemma

Posted by Mrs Imran on Jun 1, 2009
Filed Under Pregnancy | 20 comments

I’ve been reading many blogs lately and came across so many different approaches about breastfeeding.

There are mothers who breastfeed her infant for a short period. Say 6 months.
There are also mothers who is too obsess with breastfeeding and can’t accept the fact that her milk supply is decreasing. She also refuse to feed her baby with other milk, which I reckon that such act is consider selfish and obviously she has put her ego above all.
There are mothers who’s trying to breastfeed her child as long as she could and have no problem in accepting the fact that one day she will eventually need to stop breastfeeding. Mothers that fall under this category are considered cool and masuk akal.
Nevertheless, there are also mothers that denying her child needs for the breast milk, which is so un-cool.

I was called to discuss about the main reason why we want to breastfeed our baby. As sometimes I feel irritated with mommies who turning this breastfeeding business into a competition as if breastfeed is about who can breastfeed the longest. Heck!

I think that is ridiculous. There is no such trophy, mind you.

You breastfeed your child because you know breast milk is always the best for the baby. Breastfeed your child as long as you could and let it go once you think you are no longer capable to. Don’t be so stubborn and refuse to feed your baby with food/milk other than yours and make the poor baby starve to death.

I may or may not understand the feeling, but as a mother we can’t always let feeling overwhelming us too much which eventually will lead us into making wrong evaluation. I know it is easier said than done. But, still….try to think less about yourself.

Be realistic.

Put behind all egos and breastfeed lah dengan ikhlas and with love.

Comments

20 Comments

mrs noba | June 1, 2009 at 7:44 pm

every mother wants the best for their child but itulah…kalo terlalu obsessed dgn breastfeeding sampai tak kisah susu cukup atau tak – agak scary di situ.

mrs noba´s last blog post..Percubaan Untuk Menjadi Trendy…

Reply
Mrs Imran Reply:
June 1st, 2009 at 7:49 pm
bukan agak scary..boleh terbunuh okk baby tu…

seres tk paham la..

Reply
june | June 1, 2009 at 7:48 pm

hye penol..heehh
pasal breastfeed tu kan..kalau boleh nak buat bebetul tp ntah la bleh ke kita sendiri nak bertahan selama boleh kan..konon beli pam nak buat bebetul..skali nanti seminggu je..pastu susu dah tak keluar? camno tuh???

june´s last blog post..35weeks today!

Reply
Mrs Imran Reply:
June 1st, 2009 at 8:00 pm
itu dimaafkan la…at least u dah try kan..

dah tkder nk buat camno la kan..tkkan nk gi pump guna pump tayar kot..huhuh

neway ada cara la nk banyakkan susu..ada tips2 i bace kt internet ni

tk payah pressure urself..buat sehabis boleh jer..kalau dah tk boleh tkyah nk emo2..:) (poyo eh i…huhu)

Reply
Miza | June 1, 2009 at 9:32 pm

haha…i second your opinion ayu! yg paling tak tahan bila some mommies compare each other how long they are capable of breastfeeding their child! gahh! i get sooo irritated with super competitive mothers yg konon2 dia nyer method la yg plg bagus, kene buat ikut her way baru dpt anak lawa putih melepak mcm nicole kidman, genius cam einstein etc. eh wait, i dah lari tpoic. ur entry ni buat i emo la! now i feel like a biatch! lol!

Miza´s last blog post..Ayra says Mmmiiieee

Reply
Mrs Imran Reply:
June 1st, 2009 at 10:44 pm
yup, i think they get the whole idea about breastfeeding ni wrongly la…

tk boleh tahan siap ada yg “mcm” (kalau tak bagusla..) nk berlawan susu saper lagi banyak..i was like wtf!! hadoiiiii…ingat ni pertandingan perah susu lembu ker.

ini la dia antara aksi2 ahli mensyuarat tingkap yg sgt la irritating..

sbb tu i ckp breastfeed la dgn ikhlas kan bagus..

u jgn emo2..gi makan sushi…hahaha

Reply
june | June 1, 2009 at 11:35 pm

hahha..betul betul..skang dah banyak tips nak banyakkan susu kan.tp tuh la..nak dengan taknak je..kalau mak mak kita rajin tolong buatkan petua tu ok la kot..kalau sendiri nak buat..ya ampun.,malaihnya haku!!hahaah

june´s last blog post..35weeks today!

Reply
Mrs Imran Reply:
June 3rd, 2009 at 12:51 am
hehe petua terbaik adalah kene rajin. itu jer..and kene minum air banyak kan?

i rasa tkder petua utk banyakkan susu yg mak kiter boleh buat..sbb breast tu kiter yg punya..bukan mak kiter..hahahaa

Mrs Imran´s last blog post..Breastfeeding dilemma

Reply
mamamiya | June 2, 2009 at 1:41 am

this is what they say about “mean moms”, they are to obsessed in trying to provide the best for their kid and want to show to the whole wide world that their kid is the best. their sharing is toooooo OVER lah!

i understand that all moms love their kids, but they should also seek expert’s opinion especially on babycare & feeding. my opinion on the 4 group u mentioned?
1st group-6months is already good enough kan? atleast the kid can also start weaning coz there are also cases where budak prefer BF than food..like anak mummy ila & also my miya.
2nd group-isnt the kid;s interest is the priority & not the mom;s obsessive mission on fully BF & no FM? then kalau anak tak naik berat, surely the mom will feel upset bila org kata might be something wrong with her caregiving..lg byk fitnah & dosa lak nnt kan?
3rd-might face prob like my daughter, prefer Bf than solid food? but i salute la moms who can fully BF til anak 2yrs old.
4th group-this kind on people might need more educating on babycare giving. also statistic did show that these kind ppl are actually ppl who fail to BF during the 1st week after giving birth..so they prefer to be in denial & create such excuse… maybe ashamed & frustrated?

mamamiya´s last blog post..the funny truth about exam..

Reply
Mrs Imran Reply:
June 3rd, 2009 at 12:58 am
i second you, only for the 4th group actually i was mean to refer to group of mothers who against BF eventho they r capable to. always in denial.

mothers who actually tried hard but unfortunately not able to produce sufficient milk for her baby is forgiven.

it’s not their fault…but faith

Mrs Imran´s last blog post..Breastfeeding dilemma

Reply
cikpid | June 2, 2009 at 11:30 pm

haah..kdg2 diorang ni yg lumba2 tu pon byk bagi ayat sakit hati pada ibu2 yg x BF ni..mcm saya, x BF sbb mmg xde susu..lps abis pntg..susu tu makin sikit..n sy x merasa demam bengkak susu mcm org cakap tu sbb jns susu sikit..tiap kali my baby mnyusu die akan nangis sbb x puas n still lapar ag..terpksalaa bg FM..tapi pndangan org pada ibu2 FM ni mcm hina sgt..kite kan nk terbaik utk anak kite..tapi Allah tentukan segala2nya..

cikpid´s last blog post..ding dong ding dong

Reply
Mrs Imran Reply:
June 3rd, 2009 at 12:48 am
oh u poor thing….i totatlly understand. i pon ni harap2 boleh la BF..sbb i tahu chances utk tk dpt BF mmg ada jugak. actually honestly la..i see nothing wrong kasik anak u minum FM, sbb in ur case susu u sikit kan..tkkan nk anak kebulur tk cukup makan.

but then again itu la…kadang2 i rasa BF terlalu overated, bukan i against BF tapi sometimes disebabkan overated sesapa yg tk BF tu macam sngat hina dina

tapi kalau org saja2 tanak BF wpun susu banyak. itu i tk setuju ok.

Mrs Imran´s last blog post..Breastfeeding dilemma

Reply
leeds | June 3, 2009 at 10:49 am

saye sokong!

Reply
Mrs Imran Reply:
June 3rd, 2009 at 10:32 pm
bagus…i bertanding kt manik urai nnt..jgn lupa undi ok

Reply
kakyong | June 6, 2009 at 11:05 am

wah topik hangat nih..

kakyong sblm dpt fikri (anak 1st) memang nak fully BF at least sampai 2 tahun.. heheh, hajat tu memang besor.. tp bila dah mula kerja, siang fikri on FM, ptg sampai esok subuh nenen ibu.
tp by the time fikri nak masuk 6 mths, dah susu plak tak nak kuor.. buat mcm2 tak kuor juga..
ok, nawaitu utk baby yg 2nd plak.. anis the very kuat menyusu gal.. exclusively BF for 3 mths shj.. pastu lekat pulak yg no 3, susu terus kering, so ANis terus on FM..
Aliya yg 3rd.. Alhmdulillah, after 10 mths still on BF, tapi tak bermakna lepas dah 6 mths bg susu ibu jer.. dia dah boleh mkn so masa menyusu pun kurang.. tp still menyusu.. hrp2 dpt la BF sampai 2 tahun.. kita merancang Allah yg tentukan..

tiap kita ni berbeza, btw i think elok juga ade persaingan @ nak berlumba2 utk susu kan baby dgn susu ibu.. sbg pembakar semangat, tak salah kan.. cuma jgn overdo lah.. sbb tu la ade support group utk BF.. tujuan nyer bukan nak lomba2, tp lebih kpd galakan.. saper yg rasa dia hebat sgt tu, let it be lah.. i do whatever i can.. yg penting tumbesaran baby normal.. selagi ibu bole BF then BF lah.. kalo nawaitu kita betui Insya Allah.. lagipun Allah lebih tahu akan setiap perkara..
kakyong pun ade kwn yg anak dah 7, semua on FM,, dpt menyusu 2,3 hari jer.. memang jenis yg tak ber’susu’.. bdn kecik kiut miut jer, mengandung senang, nak bersalin pun senang.. yg part susu tu jer Allah duga dia..

weii.. dah pjg plak daku meroyan kat sini… bila due ni? all the best ya..

kakyong´s last blog post..Notis : award & tag (STICKY MODE)

Reply
Mrs Imran Reply:
June 7th, 2009 at 6:07 pm
yup couldnt agree more with kak yong

(quote)
tiap kita ni berbeza, btw i think elok juga ade persaingan @ nak berlumba2 utk susu kan baby dgn susu ibu.. sbg pembakar semangat, tak salah kan.. cuma jgn overdo lah.. sbb tu la ade support group utk BF.. tujuan nyer bukan nak lomba2, tp lebih kpd galakan.. saper yg rasa dia hebat sgt tu, let it be lah.. i do whatever i can.. yg penting tumbesaran baby normal.. selagi ibu bole BF then BF lah.. kalo nawaitu kita betui Insya Allah.. lagipun Allah lebih tahu akan setiap perkara..
(unquote)

jangan berlebey2 sampai jadi motif utk BF tu dah terpesong dari niat sebenar

Mrs Imran´s last blog post..Guess My Baby’s Name!

Reply
mama emma | June 7, 2009 at 2:27 pm

selama i bkecimpung dlm dunia bf nie, x penah pulak i jumpa golongan #4 tu.. eh cop2.. ada kot… mmg lumba2 nak tunjukkan pd dunia sapa dpt bf paling lama.. tp bg i, kita kene terima dgn fikiran tbuka.. mungkin niat dia tu hanya utk naikkan semangat or motivasi utk diri dia sdiri agak dlm provide yg tbaik utk anak dia…

tp kekadang, ape yg kita blaku x spt yg drancangkan… kekadang tu, gather la info sbyk mana, tp kalau dah ketentuanNya nak uji kita, kita pun xleh nak buat ape (mayb susu kurang)

some ppl suka put a certain target dlm bf journey nie.. memula nak xclusive bf utk 6bln, then introce solid food.. then 2nd stage, nak cuba bf lak utk 1thn.. mother yg mcm nie, i mmg sokong.. sbb kurang sikit la pressure tu kalau kita xleh nak provide enough milk utk anak kita…

ttg soalan u mcm mana nak store milk utk ur baby, sementara u keje kat shah alam nie, leh x u buat entry? sbb question u x clear la.. i baca q u pun kat blog mama qaisara.. info x complete…

mama emma´s last blog post..-DIA DAH MULA NAK MKN-

Reply
Mrs Imran Reply:
June 7th, 2009 at 6:04 pm
oh hehe..u terbaca my q tu eh. ok2 nnt i buat entry sementara masih sempat ini

oh btw, i have no problem with mother yg ada determination nk BF like 10 years pon takper..tapi i rasa a bit detested dgn mother yg mcm keen more about her ego…mcm kalau tk capai target dia tu..dia mcm liat giler nk turunkan ego to buy FM utk anak dia. sampai anak nagis2 sbb tk cukup makan.perlu ke keras hati sgt macam tu?

so i rasa yg mcm tu, bukan lagi nk motivate herself tapi dah terlain plak jadinya.

tu yg i kata BF seboleh yg boleh and ikhlas. as simple as that.

Mrs Imran´s last blog post..Guess My Baby’s Name!

Reply
Intan | June 12, 2009 at 8:30 pm

ada ke org mcm tu??? x pernah pulak terjumpa. mungkin they tak maksud nak ego..x terlintas pun. mungkin derang cuba sedaya upaya utk teruskan BF hingga ke titisan terakhir.. itu yg mereka usahakan. apapun pilihan di tgn masing2 kan. menyusukan @ tidak, the option is yours. setiap ibu tentu tahu apa yg terbaik utk anak masing2. jadi… x perlu lah kita persoalkan apapun tindakan orang utk anaknya.
peace no war…

Reply
Mrs Imran Reply:
June 13th, 2009 at 12:14 am
entah la..

yg i terjumpa tu mmg dia sendiri yg cakap dia ego. hee.
so ada la kot.

Reply